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Under “Speech Notes”, write:
Listening skills:
Most Important Lines of a Speech:
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Leaders who are seeking this can be described as:
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Hamburger Bun Method for Speeches:
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Self concept is formed in three ways:
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Circles of Influence (who impacts our Self Concept)
Center: 0-2 years: Early Family
Next ring out: 2-5 years: Friends
Next ring out: 5-12 years: Schoolmates, teachers, etc.
Next ring out: 12 years +: New people at school, college, work, etc.
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Don’t forget… you have only 30 seconds to make a first impression! And if you blow the first impression, it takes approximately 20 additional encounters with that person to undo what you messed up the first time!
The cues that people notice:
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Responding in Professional Settings
Discussion notes:
Focus on the internal qualities of a leader, not just the externals. Focus on things you want to convey such as:
Warmth, Kindness, Authority, Knowledge, Genuineness
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I.Q. measures Math and Verbal abilities
E.Q. measures personal skills or people skills
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Self-Control: the ability to control your impulses or urges to do something.
Empathy: the ability to feel what others feel; to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
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Not everyone has social skills, and that is because of one or more of the three reasons:
For the 8 Cues review, check out page 20.
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If absent, read pages 32-35 and take the notes below:
Circle “Dr. John Haggai”… the following are his suggestions to make a better, more convincing speech:
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Read page 36 and write the following.
PAGE 37 NOTES: See how many you know. Then, check page 20.
PAGE 38-39 NOTES: Read page 38 and complete page 39.
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Peer Pressure
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Now, here are some good statements to use in dealing with situations and people that intrude into your life in ways that you don’t feel right about:
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Rescuing Skills:
The following thoughts will help you better deal with these situations:
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Improving the Quality of our Family Relationships: Read page 88 for complete understanding.
It comes down to this:
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Make sure you know the difference between disengaged and enmeshed families. Also, know the difference between chaotic and rigid families.
PAGE 2 NOTES
- Please “star” Henry Ford’s quote on page 2!
- What’s the difference between those who do well and those who truly excel? In Teen Leadership we like to think the difference is: 5% extra effort
- Another important concept to look at when thinking about attitude is what we call the W.I.T. way of thinking. W.I.T. stands for Whatever It Takes.
- Anywhere on page 2, write the following: It’s not your IQ that matters, it’s you EQ (Emotional Quotient – ability to relate and communicate with people) and your “I Can” (I Can Do This)
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- Page 3: Star the speaking hints the speaker is saying on the comic.
- Your job is to develop an attitude that says “I can do this.”
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- Page 4: One of the most important things to get from this lesson is: Leaders take joy in getting to know new people and like to develop new relationships.
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Under “Speech Notes”, write:
Listening skills:
- S - Square up
- O - Open Posture
- L - Lean in
- E - Eye contact
- R - Respond
Most Important Lines of a Speech:
- Introduction and Conclusion
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- Page 6: How long does it take for someone to form a first impression of you? About 30 seconds.
- How long does it take to reverse a bad first impression you have made? Approximately 20 additional meetings or interactions!
- While talking to a person for the first time, use the person’s name at least three times during the conversation.
- “Star” the following sentences under “Letters” on page 6: Don’t worry about the length or the need to be eloquent. That’s not what matters. The thing that counts is that you have taken the time to let the person know that you thought of him and did something about it.
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- All effective leaders are seeking what some refer to as: Personal Mastery.
Leaders who are seeking this can be described as:
- Wanting to be all that they can be
- They are growing
- Committed to learning and to education
- Want their lives to make a difference in this world
- Have a clear idea about the kind of person they want to become
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Hamburger Bun Method for Speeches:
- 1. Tell us what you’re going to say.
- 2. Then say it.
- 3. And tell us what you said!
- Work hardest on writing and memorizing your opening and closing lines.
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Self concept is formed in three ways:
- 1. Social Experiences – The positive/negative input we received growing up.
- 2. Social Comparisons – Judging ourselves by comparing ourselves to others.
- 3. Reflected Appraisals – How we think others are thinking about us.
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Circles of Influence (who impacts our Self Concept)
Center: 0-2 years: Early Family
Next ring out: 2-5 years: Friends
Next ring out: 5-12 years: Schoolmates, teachers, etc.
Next ring out: 12 years +: New people at school, college, work, etc.
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Don’t forget… you have only 30 seconds to make a first impression! And if you blow the first impression, it takes approximately 20 additional encounters with that person to undo what you messed up the first time!
The cues that people notice:
- Posture
- Smile
- Tone
- Stress
- Handshake
- Energy
- Eyes
- Dress
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Responding in Professional Settings
Discussion notes:
- How a lady sits/stands (Look bigger. The smaller you act, the less presence you have, the less people will take you seriously)
- How a man should shake a lady’s hand (Firm, just like a man’s hand!)
- When someone comes in for an appointment and you are at a desk (Get up and shake their hand! The person is important, not your desk or email.)
- When you are with a group and an individual is trying to say “hi” and be included (Shift your body weight to include him/her into the circle, use the person’s name and ask them a question about what your group is talking about, introduce the person to the group, when there’s a chance)
Focus on the internal qualities of a leader, not just the externals. Focus on things you want to convey such as:
Warmth, Kindness, Authority, Knowledge, Genuineness
- 55% of every message is communicated through the use of: body language.
- 38% of every message is communicated through your: tone of voice.
- Only 7% of a message is communicated by: actual words you say.
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I.Q. measures Math and Verbal abilities
E.Q. measures personal skills or people skills
- Interpersonal Skills – combines empathy and social skills (see below)
- Persistence – the ability to stick with something, not give up
- Optimism – the ability to be positive in the face of adversity or struggle
- Self-Awareness – ability to understand who you really are, strengths, weaknesses
- Self-Control – the ability to control impulses or urges to do something
- Empathy – the ability to feel what others feel, put yourself in someone else’s shoes
- Social Skills – the ability to interact with others in a positive, successful way
- Self-Motivation – the ability to tell yourself what to do (not someone else)
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Self-Control: the ability to control your impulses or urges to do something.
Empathy: the ability to feel what others feel; to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
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Not everyone has social skills, and that is because of one or more of the three reasons:
- They have not been taught the techniques, or
- They have not used them enough to be good at them, or
- They are too lazy to care about them.
For the 8 Cues review, check out page 20.
PAGES 32-35 NOTES:
If absent, read pages 32-35 and take the notes below:
Circle “Dr. John Haggai”… the following are his suggestions to make a better, more convincing speech:
- First, you must know your audience.
- Second, select the right communication goal.
- To inform (need to know my stuff)
- To motivate or persuade (convey how passionate you feel about something so you can make others feel the same way)
- To actuate (to get action from the audience)
- To entertain.
- Third, speak from your own experience (you’re the expert).
- Fourth, support your statements with facts.
- Fifth, speak to people’s desires. Know your audience, what their interests are, what moves them, and speak to those things.
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Read page 36 and write the following.
- Impression Management Theory: the things we do when someone is watching.
- Remember, it takes 30 seconds to make a first impression and 20 additional encounters to undo a bad one!
PAGE 37 NOTES: See how many you know. Then, check page 20.
PAGE 38-39 NOTES: Read page 38 and complete page 39.
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- 1. The way we spend our time.
- 2. The way we spend our money.
- 3. The way we treat other people.
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- What is a moment of truth? It is when you face a tough choice that will say something about your values. See the Extra-Strength Tylenol story next to the medicine image.
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- What is the #1 threat to a principled-center life? Look at the top of page 45.
- Situational ethics is when you change what’s right based on the situation. This is also known as moral relativism. (write that down somewhere at the top of the page).
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- A principle can be defined as a fundamental truth or motivating force; a rule of conduct that produces uprightness and integrity.
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- Another example of situational ethics or moral relativism is described under “The Problem of Erosion”.
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Peer Pressure
- 1. Overt: Very direct, straight-forward, in-your-face
- 2. Covert: Indirect, undercover, subtle, joking
- 3. Situational: Wrong place, wrong time; didn’t see it coming
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- P to the 5th power = Prior Planning Prevents Poor Performance
- 55% of the message is nonverbal (body language)
- Description: Posture, facial expressions, arm and hand positions are important when saying “no”.
- 38% of the message is tone.
- Description: We need to know in advance what our tone will be. Tone and Body language must match. Don’t raise tone at the end of words (sounds like you’re asking a question and you’re unsure), be serious and not “cheery”.
- The actual words we say are very important, but they make up only about 7% of the total message received.
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- Some times to use silence (all body language): Board meeting, Conference room, when your boss is the one being inappropriate (confront in private)
Now, here are some good statements to use in dealing with situations and people that intrude into your life in ways that you don’t feel right about:
- “Broken record” technique: Repeat a statement over and over, such as “I hear what you’re saying”. If asked for an opinion you don’t feel comfortable sharing, say “I’d rather not say”. If the person won’t give up, say “You’ll just have to accept my answer.”
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Rescuing Skills:
The following thoughts will help you better deal with these situations:
- 1. Draw person out of the group (“Hey, Brandi, come here for a sec… what are you doing this weekend?”)
- 2. Align yourself with the person being made fun of (“I think John has a point…” and/or physically stand closer to the person to show support.)
- 3. When the person being made fun of is not even present, you can “rescue” them by offering a balanced, supportive statement (“Yes, but Michael is really a good friend.”)
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- Make sure you understand what “automatic thoughts” are and how they can cause problems.
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Improving the Quality of our Family Relationships: Read page 88 for complete understanding.
It comes down to this:
- 1. Listening
- 2. Be careful of your need to be right. The relationship is more important than being right.
- 3. Asking forgiveness is essential.
- 4. Children, and perhaps all of us, spell love: T-I-M-E
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Make sure you know the difference between disengaged and enmeshed families. Also, know the difference between chaotic and rigid families.